It can be tough to approach a friend or loved one about their drinking or drug use, but your concern could make a huge difference in their life. Here are some tips for how to have a compassionate and supportive conversation:

1. Set Up a Time and Place to Chat
Find a quiet, private place to have a conversation where the person will feel comfortable. It’s important to make sure they know this is a space where they can open up without judgment.

2. Express Your Concerns Clearly
Begin the conversation with a simple, non-judgmental statement like, “I’ve noticed something recently, and I’d like to chat about it.” This lets them know you’re concerned and care, not just criticizing them.

3. Provide an Example of Your Concern
Without sounding like you’re monitoring everything they do, mention a specific instance that concerned you. For example, “I noticed last weekend you seemed to be having trouble with getting home after a few drinks, and I just wanted to check in with you.”

4. Listen Actively
This conversation is about understanding, not accusing. Give them the space to explain what they’re going through. You might hear things you didn’t expect, and it’s important to listen without interrupting.

5. Ask Open-Ended Questions
Use questions that encourage conversation and introspection. For example, “How have you been feeling recently when you’ve had a drink?” This will help them think about their behavior and open up more.

6. Suggest Talking to a Professional
End the conversation by suggesting that they talk to someone about their drinking or drug use. You could say something like, “It might help to speak with someone who can offer support.” Be sure to offer resources for them to check out.

7. Explore Resources
Let them know that there are resources available to help. Here are a couple of options in Charlotte:

• Charlotte AA Meetings: CharlotteAAmeetings
• Full Circle Program: FullCircleProgram
• Also – Check out potential resources at your school.

Remember, this kind of conversation is about showing love and support, not judgment. It can be challenging, but you could be the catalyst that helps them take the first step toward getting the help they need.